Be Careful Whom You Share Your Thoughts With

It was more of my fault. I was over-sharing. There are things about my relationships with Jake that I should have kept myself. Also, there are opinions that you should have kept to yourself as well. So that makes the two of us equally guilty. And then, there's also a rule that you shouldn't kick a man when he's already down. Or don't rub more salt into a wound you helped to create. So that tips the balance towards my advantage.

You don't know half of my relationship with Jake and you're telling me that it's almost the end for us based on the choices that the two of us made. Either you're really the self-proclaimed pessimist that you are, or you're just beyond this generation, or your idea of a relationship is pegged on a certain stereotype that can no longer be changed to your disadvantage.

Jake and I worked hard on this relationship to get to where we are now. I'm not really affected by what you said or your opinion of it, nor by your snide remarks. I'm just annoyed by the fact that you can just judge a relationship without even knowing a fourth of how it happened and talk as if you're the authority on relationships when you were too proud to even try to make your last relationship work.

I'm just thinking that maybe, you're projecting your mentality to me. This is what you think would happen - or maybe this was what actually happened - to your relationships.

When people are brave enough to make tough choices to make each other happy, you shouldn't strike it down just because it doesn't conform to your beliefs. OK, granted that I shouldn't just had said anything. But you might as well had shut up.

I need no apologies and I doubt if you even would offer some. At least I learned a lesson: be careful whom you share your thoughts with. Especially on your relationships. They might not understand. It's not their fault. The best person to talk to first about your relationship is your partner. Because he's the only one who knows everything about it other than you and he give his thoughts on it as it is. Not based on an imagined existence or parallel personalities. The problem with most failed relationships is that they talk to others first about their problems before they talk to their partners. And you get this whole notion of a problem being there when it's not really much of anything. People love to play problem solvers so they create or aggravate problems. Making mountains out of molehills. The more pessimistic ones want to be ones to tell you that they told you so. And sadly, some of us want to create problems or feel the need to create problems just to be the center of attention. Talk to your partners first! It might not be a problem at all.

After that incident, I talked to Jake about it. And we talked about our supposed "issues" which, after some discussion (and much flirting over the phone) turn out to be non-issues. Our biggest issue as it turns out is knowing what other people think about our relationships. It kinda sucks but they're not the ones who are in this relationship. It's me and Jake. So they might be entitled to their own opinions but in the end, the only opinion that matters and counts is mine and Jake's.

Life's been wonderful with Jake. As he said himself, he's willing to milk this for all it's worth, the good and the bad. So let's enjoy this, Jake.

Gucci Gang Exposé

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Boyd and Jake go on a road trip

Yey! It was a long overdue vacation for the both of us. We haven't gone out on holidays together for quite some time. The last was when I visited Jake in Baguio last year.

This time we went northwest to Zambales! It was one of the best trips I've made. Not only because I was with Jake but also because it was so worth the trip. Although the traffic was bad when we left Manila, it was smooth sailing on the SCTEx and beyond. I never knew Zambales was that beautiful. We went to San Antonio town, in a beach called Pundaquit/Pundakit. All the resorts were fully booked but it was a good thing that we found a cozy little cottage just for the two of us.

We went to Camara and Capones Island, which are just across the beach, maybe 20 minutes away. And we camped out in Anawangin Beach. It's this cove which you access by boat and there are pine trees everywhere! It was soooo beautiful. The best part about it is that Jake was with me and there couldn't be any man in the world happier than I was :)

Happy Birthday Boyd and Jake

I think that the best way to celebrate my birthday is to share my blessings with the people I love. I have been particularly blessed this last year and I'm very thankful for it this is my chance to thank the people who have made my life so blessed.

My college friends called for a reunion at my friend's house and they said that I was in charge of food, along with another friend who was celebrating her birthday on the same week. Of course I said yes, so I had six boxes of pizza delivered and the party got started. There were games even! So much fun! We were like college kids again. Hahaha. Jake and I rested for a while testing out my new digital SLR camera - my gift to myself, hehe - and then people called us out in the garden. And they has cake for us and everybody was singing Happy Birthday! Jake and I blew the candles so many times, I dunno why my friend kept on lighting it everytime we blew it. And we had an icing smudgefest! Hehehe. That was fun.

The next day, I was texting with Jake's college faghag and organized an early morning birthday surprise for Jake in school. I brought cake and they made sure Jake came to school - which almost failed - and then I waited inside their classroom for a while. Jake almost blew his own surprise by being too stubborn and deciding not to go to class in the morning. But I guess they forced him to really come and he did and he was really surprised that I was there! At least it worked! I've always wanted to do that (surprise my boyfriend) and guys, I'm telling you, it feels soooo good! You should do it, too!

I woke up early enough for lunch on the day of my birthday and Jake and I decided to have a late lunch date. Jake didn't have class so I was guessing he was taking his time to get to where we were supposed to meet. He was actually 30 minutes late but I decided not to dwell on it since it was my birthday and I didn't want our moods ruined. So we had more pizza and hopped to the next restaurant for dessert. I took a table outside and waited for him while he ordered. When the orders came, I was surprised that balloons came with it. And then it hit me that I was being surprised too! So I was really surprised. Hehe. I wasn't really expecting it!!! Well, duh, if I did, it wouldn't be a surprise anymore.

At the office, I had food prepared for late lunch and everybody agreed that my mom is a good cook! I'm so proud of my mom and it's so nice of her to have lovingly prepared this feast for me.

The next day after a meeting, my teammates surprised me again with another cake and a feast of Japanese food.

And then the next day, Jake and I had a joint bash for our friends in Makati. Everyone was so drunk, they went home crawling, if not being dragged! Hahahaha!

And finally on the ninth day of the birthday week, I had a quiet dinner party at home with my family and relatives and there was so much food, I wish I invited the neighbors too!

That was really the best birthday of my life... so far :)

Back Again from another Hiatus!

I'm back again from another blogging hiatus. Sorry dear readers if I do my hiatuses within months of each other. Remember that this is the summer season and so many things are happening! I'll just give you a rundown of what I have been doing during my hiatus and then I'll go into details:

* It was Boyd and Jake's birthday week!!! Yes, Jake and I celebrate our birthdays in the same week and our birthday celebrations haven't been as fun as this year's (for me at least!)

* I was reading the very juicy DJ Montano blog. Couldn't get enough of it!

* It's Holy Week and Jake and I went for a romantic getaway together!

Happy Easter!!! Here come the juicy details....

Exclusive Lounge for PLU?

I was surprised to come across this D.tour Blue Lounge on the Pink Pages (www.pink-pages.biz). What surprised me is that I only found out about it now. They're policy of "exclusivity" must be really working then.

According to their website (dtourbluelounge.multiply.com), they're located along Shaw Boulevard near JRU. I'm not very sure about the choice of location. The neighborhoods certainly don't shout exclusivity. But I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt. I'm checking it out with Jake as soon as I've told him about it and he agrees to go. And usually he agrees anyway. Most of the time, he even leads the way. And I gladly follow, of course. :)

Anyway, if anyone of you has heard about D.tour or has been to the place, do share with me some of your experiences. I would appreciate it! If you haven't gone to the place, which is apparently members-only, check out their website for the address and the location map and directions on how to get there. And if you've decided to go, we'll see you there soon. :)

Club Mafia Manila

Orosa Courtyard, M. Orosa cor. J. Nakpil Sts., Malate, Manila

It's nice to know that the monopoly on the gay club scene is slowly and successfully being challenged. After Bed and Club Government comes Club Mafia Manila, which took over the location of The Rainbow Project (right beside Bed!). Aiko Melendez is apparently part-owner of the club. I don't know if she knows that part of the marketing strategy is to cater it to the gay population. But maybe she knows.

It looks like Bed and Government, interior-wise. But the drinks, I think, are more expensive. They charge you a door charge of 200 pesos after 12mn. And they also have go-go boys. One of the go-go boys was cute (the leaner one)... which reminds me of... the masseur... at Asian Massage. haha.

They have a "weird" mix of music. It's like a Confused House R&B Fiesta. But nevertheless, it's danceable. The people don't dance though. And they gawk at you like they've never seen a gay couple before.

The thing with Malate is that people gawk. Or stare. Especially at that corner bar (O Bar) on Orosa and Nakpil. I'm sure it's harmless flirting. But they didn't have to be that obvious.

Anyway, would I recommend Club Mafia? For the experience, yes. It needs some more time though. I don't know exactly how I feel about knowing that Aiko Melendez partly owns it. I feel... uhm... cheap? Anyway, just go there and experience the place. It's not half bad. But I'm sticking to Club Government. The people look better there anyway.